Pegging – maybe you’ve heard of it but don’t know what it means, maybe you’ve tried it, maybe this is the first time you’ve come across the word in a sexual context. Whatever your experience with the word is, we’ve done the research and are here to tell you some things about the subject that you might not know.
1. Let’s get the basics out of the way. You’ve probably heard of the series “Bend Over Boyfriend”. Those are all about pegging: a woman puts on a strap-on dildo and screws a guy. Some people find it really appealing, if reviews of the series and what we found on dating sites are anything to go by. We’re obviously including men here, since we’re pretty sure very few guys would willingly take it if they weren’t into the idea. From what we can tell, the series sells incredibly well, especially considering the subject matter. It’s kind of a niche market, you know? So that alone says a ton of people have at least considered the idea. You might even be one of them.
2. According to our research, including reviews we found on sex sites, dating sites, and Dan Savage, the reason pegging is so popular is because of the fact that anal sex is designed to be pleasurable. That kind of blew our minds. It’s not the kind of thing most of us would think would feel good—although it’s got to, considering how many gay guys get it on like that. We’d cite porn actresses who seem to like it, but they’re paid to pretend, so it doesn’t count, and none of you know our girlfriends to verify we’re telling the truth. If anything, we’d think anal would feel kind of like taking a dump, but in reverse. This apparently isn’t the case. The anus is apparently an erogenous zone, so when you’re getting hot and heavy, it starts perceiving touch differently if you’re ready for it. For dudes, there’s also the prostate to consider. The prostate is basically an erogenous zone of its own, and it’s barely ever directly stimulated—it’s not like that’s what the doctor’s trying to do during prostate checks. We’ve read the argument that dudes are designed to take it anally because of where the prostate is and how sensitive it is. The only way it gets stimulated is to put something up there, and that leads us back to pegging.
3. The anus doesn’t produce its own lubrication, obviously, and you don’t want to go things dry. That leads to unfortunate words like “fissures”. A good lubricant will solve that problem for you. Water-based lubes are best, since oil-based ones, including things like Vaseline, don’t play nice with latex. Latex is what most condoms and a lot of dildos are made of. Oil-based lubes and gels weaken latex and can cause breaking and tearing, which is a really bad idea when you need to practice good hygiene. You’re not exactly likely to catch an STD from pegging, but you do need to be able to thoroughly clean the toy involved. Silicone lube doesn’t play nice with silicone sex toys (it can cause the same issues as oil-based lubes do for latex toys). With water-based lube, you don’t have to worry about those effects or remember which dildo is made of which material. It does dry out and get sticky, so you’ll need to keep reapplying it as you go. Doctor visits have also taught us that it’s unpleasant to get cold lube applied there, so ask your lady to be nice and warm it a little when she starts to finger you. (You can try keeping the dildo itself in some warm water until just before getting things going, if you want; that helps with the cold lube issue when you’ve moved on from stretching. Just make sure it’s thoroughly dry before applying the lube to it.) Actual warming or tingling lubes aren’t a good idea; the chemicals in them can irritate anal tissue, and just those three words together make us want to cringe. We can’t imagine what it would be like to deal with. Unless you’re seriously into the idea of finding out, skip them.
4. Start small. You don’t want to go with a dildo two inches across your first time without any prep work first. Or maybe you do, but have fun with your anal fissures, and don’t tell us about them. To get going, one of you is going to have to finger you. This can involve gloves; in fact, we highly recommend it. According to various comments and reviews off of dating and sex sites, people find that it’s more fun if you’re making out while this happens. Make it part of your foreplay, in other words, instead of some weird, “Wait, we need to finger my ass right now,” detour. Make sure her nails are clipped and filed, unless you like the idea of a tear in that area. (We’re having entirely new views on those girl-on-girl porn’s where one has three-inch nails and is fingering the other, and it’s killing the hard-on we should be getting remembering that porno.) Like we said, gloves are an option, or she could roll a condom over her fingers. However she decides to do it, she should start with one finger. This is where we found varying information. Some people said just one finger, moved in a widening circle, was enough; other people suggested two or even three fingers. We figure you can go with what feels right. When you’re picking out the actual dildo, go with a small one, like, five inches long and an inch around, max. Sex and dating site reviews of various dildos pretty much find that’s the biggest most guys are comfortable with the first time.
It’s sex. If you don’t like it, stop and don’t do it again. If you just like the way your girlfriend looks in the strap-on, well, you’ve found a new kink. Congratulations! If you do like it, then keep doing it. Keep in mind that no one is going to bust down your door for trying it. No one is going to know if you chicken out when you start to try it, and not many people are going to care if you never go beyond reading this article. Talk it over with your girlfriend if you are interested. If she’s not, then don’t push it. If she brought it up, then you know something new about your girlfriend. If she brought it up because you were trying to get her to let you have anal with her, then you kind of walked into it, sorry to say, and you now have to decide if it’s worth it to you to go through with it. Our advice, regardless, is to try out fingering before dumping the cash on a strap-on and harness. Man, those can get expensive. If fingering doesn’t do it for you, we’re pretty sure pegging is not exactly going to be one of your top sex-related memories.
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